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Bad Boys, Bad Boys, Whatcha Gonna Do?

What is it that attracts us to people who are less than acceptable? Have we all really fallen for the fairy tale that we can turn the bad boy in to the loving and devoted boyfriend of the year? While there is something satisfying about thinking that someone could love us so much they would change for us, do we deserve the punishment that we endure while trying?

I can't even begin to count the number of times my friends have complained that there are no nice guys. Everytime we think we find one he turns out to be a phony. We've put in all of this effort and devotion to this person who turns out to be someone completely different than we thought. Then we look at other people's seemingly healthy relationships and we wonder where she found such a nice guy. We know that they're out there somewhere but we just don't know the secret knock to open the door to the castle Prince Charming is hidden in.

So we settle. We settle for the guy who is constantly checking out other women when he's with us or breaking dates at the last minute. We keep trying to get the guy who's girlfriend is cheating on him to see how much better we would treat him. We keep hoping that somehow the frog will turn in to a prince because we know where the frogs are already.

Even more simplistic, some of us are just terrified of rejection. We fear something inside of ourselves that leads us to believe that Mr Wonderful wouldn't feel the same way about us. We go for the jerks because we don't think that we can do any better and it's better to have someone less than perfect than to have no one at all. We figure that if he decides to leave us one day for a girl with a bigger chest that we really haven't lost much anyway.

It's quite possible that we all have different reasons for falling for the bad boys. Whether we think we can change them, we think it's all that we deserve or we're just sick of searching, the truth is we've all been there. We've all settled for someone who's treated us poorly and we've all wondered why other people are doing the same thing. Maybe we're all going to be a bad girlfriend or boyfriend until we find that right person who makes us see things differently. Aren't we all just playing the game until a worthy opponent comes along and we're forced to throw the rules out the window and look at everything differently?

Lips of an Angel

Artist Name- Hinder
Song lyrics- Lips of an angel
Listen for free: Lips Of An Angel

Honey why are you calling me so late
It's kinda hard to talk right now
Honey why are you crying is everything okay
I gotta whisper cause I can't be too loud
Well, my girl's in the next room
Sometimes I wish she was you
I guess we never really moved on
It's really good to hear your voice
saying my name
It sounds so sweet
Coming from the lips of an angel
Hearing those words it makes me weak
And I never wanna say goodbye
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel
It's funny that you're calling me tonight
And yes I've dreamt of you too
And does he know you're talking to me
Will it start a fight
No I don't think she has a clue
Well my girl's in the next room
Sometimes I wish she was you
I guess we never really moved on
It's really good to hear your voice saying my name
It sounds so sweet
Coming from the lips of an angel
Hearing those words it makes me weak
And I never wanna say goodbye
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel
It's really good to hear your voice
saying my name
It sounds so sweet
Coming from the lips of an angel
Hearing those words it makes me weak
And I never wanna say goodbye
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel
(And I never wanna say goodbye)
But girl you make it hard to be faithful
With the lips of an angel
Honey why are you calling me so late

Credo to a Relationship: A Reaction Paper

Sharing with you a reaction paper I submitted for my HBO Class .
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Class: Human Behavior in Organization
Date: July 2, 2005


The scenario that I would like to presume after reading the Credo for My Relationship is that, it was referring to a romantic relationship and that the couple was new. I would like to ruminate on the second paragraph.

For me, a good relationship isn't a game we play or an ego trip we take. It is about love and two people. Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know and it can hurt more than we can believe too.

Loving someone takes efforts. We have to be able to communicate with each other. Nobody can read anyone else's mind. We always presume that our partner knows what we think and feel. Maybe in time we might be able to predict or sense each other's thoughts but it's never perfect and takes time to develop.

Loving means respecting and accepting him/her for who he/she is, and not what you want him/her to be. Everyone is pretty and special in our own special way. No one is perfect. It is true love that closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth surface of acceptance for each other.

Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful experience a person can ever have. And there's a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. It's the difference between a love that's fickle, wild and short-lived and one that's tender and passionate, nurturing and lasts a long time. The first is easy. The second, the one that really matters to all of us, takes work -- because it's about keeping a relationship.

A relationship needs commitments to keep it lasting. What is love without commitments from each other anyway? It's like principles and values. Everyone has them but they only mean as much as we are willing to stand for them.

Every day everywhere, people fall in love ...but just how many of these relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships which are formed only for the intense feeling of falling in love? I know a lot of friends who say the magical words "I love you"... but more often than not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you. Again, there is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you because of the present you. This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the fairytale lasts.

But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were in the past and who you might be in the future. Sometimes, it is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking. It is best to let our heart guide us.

It makes me feel good sharing my thoughts about LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS. I can only comprehend what it would feel like when I will finally find the 'love' that I am talking about and the kind of relationship that I had described.