Credo to a Relationship: A Reaction Paper
Sharing with you a reaction paper I submitted for my HBO Class .
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Class: Human Behavior in Organization
Date: July 2, 2005
The scenario that I would like to presume after reading the Credo for My Relationship is that, it was referring to a romantic relationship and that the couple was new. I would like to ruminate on the second paragraph.
For me, a good relationship isn't a game we play or an ego trip we take. It is about love and two people. Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know and it can hurt more than we can believe too.
Loving someone takes efforts. We have to be able to communicate with each other. Nobody can read anyone else's mind. We always presume that our partner knows what we think and feel. Maybe in time we might be able to predict or sense each other's thoughts but it's never perfect and takes time to develop.
Loving means respecting and accepting him/her for who he/she is, and not what you want him/her to be. Everyone is pretty and special in our own special way. No one is perfect. It is true love that closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth surface of acceptance for each other.
Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful experience a person can ever have. And there's a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. It's the difference between a love that's fickle, wild and short-lived and one that's tender and passionate, nurturing and lasts a long time. The first is easy. The second, the one that really matters to all of us, takes work -- because it's about keeping a relationship.
A relationship needs commitments to keep it lasting. What is love without commitments from each other anyway? It's like principles and values. Everyone has them but they only mean as much as we are willing to stand for them.
Every day everywhere, people fall in love ...but just how many of these relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships which are formed only for the intense feeling of falling in love? I know a lot of friends who say the magical words "I love you"... but more often than not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you. Again, there is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you because of the present you. This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the fairytale lasts.
But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were in the past and who you might be in the future. Sometimes, it is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking. It is best to let our heart guide us.
It makes me feel good sharing my thoughts about LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS. I can only comprehend what it would feel like when I will finally find the 'love' that I am talking about and the kind of relationship that I had described.
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Class: Human Behavior in Organization
Date: July 2, 2005
The scenario that I would like to presume after reading the Credo for My Relationship is that, it was referring to a romantic relationship and that the couple was new. I would like to ruminate on the second paragraph.
For me, a good relationship isn't a game we play or an ego trip we take. It is about love and two people. Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know and it can hurt more than we can believe too.
Loving someone takes efforts. We have to be able to communicate with each other. Nobody can read anyone else's mind. We always presume that our partner knows what we think and feel. Maybe in time we might be able to predict or sense each other's thoughts but it's never perfect and takes time to develop.
Loving means respecting and accepting him/her for who he/she is, and not what you want him/her to be. Everyone is pretty and special in our own special way. No one is perfect. It is true love that closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth surface of acceptance for each other.
Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful experience a person can ever have. And there's a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. It's the difference between a love that's fickle, wild and short-lived and one that's tender and passionate, nurturing and lasts a long time. The first is easy. The second, the one that really matters to all of us, takes work -- because it's about keeping a relationship.
A relationship needs commitments to keep it lasting. What is love without commitments from each other anyway? It's like principles and values. Everyone has them but they only mean as much as we are willing to stand for them.
Every day everywhere, people fall in love ...but just how many of these relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships which are formed only for the intense feeling of falling in love? I know a lot of friends who say the magical words "I love you"... but more often than not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you. Again, there is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you because of the present you. This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the fairytale lasts.
But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were in the past and who you might be in the future. Sometimes, it is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking. It is best to let our heart guide us.
It makes me feel good sharing my thoughts about LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS. I can only comprehend what it would feel like when I will finally find the 'love' that I am talking about and the kind of relationship that I had described.
posted by Michelle at 11:13 AM
1 Comments:
number one for me is mutual respect. but i hardly see this with people who are already in a relationship ..
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