What Really Makes Guys Cheat?

All of us have intuition, a voodoo-ish internal radaw that picks up on hidden clues.

You don't need lipstick on a collar to know your man is the two-timing type. You can forgive a guy for some indiscretions, but it's damn near impossible to turn the other cheek if he strays.

The first warning sign is often feeling unattractive, followed by insecurity. Subconsciously, you'll feel unloved and unwanted.


Recovering from any kind of betrayal is never easy. When it comes to forgiving him for his affair, I wonder: "Am I letting him get off too easy? Should I be making him suffer more? I'm very torn about where mercy and being a doormat differ." And I’m certainly not alone. No matter what the issue once was, forgiveness is always a difficult -- but real -- part of relationships. And knowing where to start is often the hardest part.

How can I forgive?

No Valentine for you?

Roses are red, violets are blue. Another Valentine's Day but no valentine for you?

If this holiday for a "honey" has you down because no one is sending you hearts or flowers, you may be wondering why you haven't been struck by Cupid's arrow.

You've studied relationship books and tried social clubs, gym classes, and dance lessons. Or maybe you've even ventured on blind dates arranged by your friends. Are you looking for love in the wrong places?

Actually, I think looking is the problem, no matter where. It just makes us look desperate, and that's one of the top five ways to send a romantic prospect running in the other direction. Another problem with "looking," is that it can become an all-consuming passion that can drive you nuts!

Find someone without looking

Then you'll whine, how can I meet someone if I stay at home curled up on the couch in my fuzzy slippers watching TV?

As one single put it, "I look at dating as if I want to buy a new car. I have to go look for one. How will anyone know I need a new car unless I tell them?"

Dating 101 says: "You don't go out dating-shopping like you'd buy a car. You go out living. You do stuff you love to do, and, in the process, you will meet other people who love to do the same."

In other words, get out there. But don't go out JUST to meet someone, go out because you love hanging out with your friends, or dancing, or listening to jazz, or taking classes.

Live life to the fullest!